Have you ever gotten totally pumped about changing some behavior, got started with a lot of enthusiasm and then pffffffffft… the whole thing just quietly fizzled out?
Maybe it was a health/fitness goal.
Maybe it was a career objective.
Maybe it was the way you want to parent.
Whatever it was, it started with a bang, but like a balloon that is not knotted up tight enough, it slowly lost wind and went limp.
Well, you’re not alone. As it turns out, there’s a scientifically proven reason for why we give up. By becoming aware of it, we can trick ourselves into changing any behavior rather effortlessly.
But First, a Little Bit of the Back Story…
About 5 weeks back we started the Discipline Without Drama community challenge on this blog. It started with a bang. So many of you enthusiastically dived into it that my whole month’s video bandwidth was blown away in just 1 day and I had to scramble to keep streaming the videos uninterrupted!
As we progressed through the challenge though, I noticed the ‘balloon losing wind’ effect.
It gave me an eerie feeling of New Years Day in June… research shows that 88% of the New Year’s Resolutions end in failure.
I started digging into psychology studies to understand what causes us to give up even though we really want to change something. Why do we dive into something with so much enthusiasm, only to abandon it in a few days? (I have a few other reasons to be so interested in this question, but that’s a whole other blog post… 😉 )
What I found out is very intriguing. At the core of all failed attempts to change behavior is [Read more…]
You know, every parent I know loves good behavior, but hates discipline.