Imagine this –
A three-year-old boy gets angry while playing a game with his friends and hits another child hard and pushes him down.
The mom comes and gives the aggressive child a hug and asks him politely not to hit his friends, and then returns to her table where she was sitting.
A few moments later, the child repeats the offense.
These are the kinds of scenarios dreamed up by those who say positive parenting doesn’t work.
At the heart of their disdain for positive parenting is the ill-conceived belief that positive parenting is permissive parenting.
They believe that positive parents fail to set boundaries, let children make and break the rules, and decline any discipline whatsoever.
And they think we try to solve every problem with a hug, are afraid of upsetting our snowflakes, and just want to be our child’s friend.
I’m sure you’ve heard this rhetoric before.
Let’s set the record straight and define what positive parenting really is and how it differs from permissive parenting. [Read more…]