When my first born was a toddler and started testing limits, I didn’t have my parenting and discipline strategy completely sorted out.
My sweet and calm child had learned to shake his head no, stomp his foot when something wasn’t to his liking and throw his dinner down to feed the dog instead of eating it himself.
My friends and even complete strangers often complimented me on what a well behaved toddler my son was. But as a new mother, I found some of his behaviors pushed my buttons.
Can I confess something to you?
I was convinced that some of my toddler’s behavior was bad and needed to be stopped right away. Especially because I had another baby on the way and didn’t want to have out of control kids.
That turned out to be a really bad choice for us.
Instead of better behavior from my son and a calmer home, we ended up with more tears for all of us.
Counting and control didn’t help my son learn new and better behaviors. My attention was always focused on what was going wrong instead of on all the wonderful things my son was capable of doing.
Our strong bond had been disrupted and I knew in my heart I needed to repair it.
Special Time was just what we needed.