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20 Awesome Children’s Books About Resilience (Sorted by Age)

by Jennifer Garry.
(This article is part of the Gift Guides, Positive Parenting FAQ series. Get free article updates here.)

Books on Resilience Main ImageWhen my daughter stepped off the bus, I could immediately tell by the pout of her lips and the little wrinkle between her eyebrows that something was wrong.

She walked to the front door looking defeated.

After a big hug and a little stroking of her hair, she was ready to launch into the epic tale of a fight with her friend. Her story was rife with drama, lies, and a heartbreak-fueled vow to never speak to the girl again.

I listened as she told her story and watched as she tried not to cry. My momma heart ached for her.

The fixer in me wanted to march right to my phone and call up the other girl’s mother to hash it all out. To explain the misunderstandings and put a Band-Aid on the emotional booboo.

But what purpose would that serve (except, of course, for making me feel better and temporarily soothing her pain)?

My daughters need to learn how to get back up when they’re knocked down—and they need to learn how to do it themselves.

As parents, we don’t want our babies to suffer heartbreak or disappointment. We just want them to be happy. But life is full of frustration and failures. That’s how we learn. And if we don’t allow our children to bounce back on their own, we’re doing them a grave disservice.

In a discussion on letting kids fail, Dr. Stephanie O’Leary, a clinical psychologist specializing in neuropsychology and the author of Parenting in the Real World, said that parents need to “Remember that one of the hardest but most important parts of parenting is to tolerate your child’s temporary discomfort knowing that it’s the only way to build the coping skills necessary to succeed in the real world where no one will be running interference for your child.”

This is not easy. In fact, it can be heartbreaking. But it’s necessary.

Marilyn Price-Mitchell, PhD, expressed a similar sentiment in an article for Psychology Today: “When we help young people cultivate an approach to life that views obstacles as a critical part of success, we help them develop resilience.”

So how do we do that? How do we, as parents, help our children develop resilience?

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Well, aside from stepping away and allowing them to bounce back from disappointment and failure on their own, we can model positive behavior. We can allow our children to get a glimpse of our own failures and struggles (to a degree) and show them an appropriate way to respond.

We can also expose them to as many stories of resilience as possible, showing them how different people respond to less than ideal circumstances and how they bounce back and ultimately triumph.

One of my favorite ways to do this is through books. I turn to books often, whether to show my daughters examples of strong female characters or to give them a few moments of escape when they seem stressed out.

I collected some of my favorite books that teach kids about resilience to share with you here. This list is by no means exhaustive, but it’s a great place to start.

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60 of the Best Learning Games for Kids (Sorted by Age)

by Lisa Tanner and Team AFineParent.
(This article is part of the Gift Guides series. Get free article updates here.)

Learning Games for Kids Collage - resizedAre you struggling to pick the perfect gift for a child this year?

Let me help.

As a certified teacher, and a homeschooling mom to seven, I really believe in using learning games for kids. We play them regularly. With over 100 games in our collection, I think I’m officially a board game addict.

Here’s why:

  • They’re fun. And what better way to learn than to have some fun?
  • They encourage soft skills. Communication. Collaboration. Problem Solving. These soft skills are crucial for success in the real world. These skills are the ones most encouraged through playing games.
  • They’re great learning resources. English/Language arts. Math. Science. Social Studies. They all go from “boring” subjects to “can we do that again tomorrow” subjects when you’re playing.
  • They’re not on a screen. I struggle with limiting screen time for my kids. Between the computer, the TV, and the various gadgets, our home feels overrun by media at times. Games focus on real-world interactions instead of digital ones. I like that.

But with so many games out there, which ones should you pick for your child? Which ones offer the most fun while still being educational? What do they teach? How can you make the most of them while playing, and connecting, at the same time?

That’s what this list is for. These are all games I either own or have on my personal wish list. At least three of them will be gifts at my house this December!

We’ve got many games to cover, so let’s jump right in.

Editor’s Note: Using play to teach is a popular positive parenting technique. If you’re new to positive parenting, or want to learn more, click here to signup for our FREE mini-course How to Be a Positive Parent.

Learning Games for Kids in Preschool

Preschoolers are little sponges, constantly absorbing information about life as they play. Guide their brains in development with the following games.

English/Language Arts

Jumbo Bananagrams

Learning Games for Kids in Preschool -Jumbo_Bananagrams_resizedWhat can you do with a bag full of 3-inch square tiles with individual letters printed on them? Lots!

Challenge your preschooler to:

  • Find matching letters
  • Spell her name
  • Put letters in order while singing the ABC song
  • Sort letters by composition (curved lines, straight lines, and combination letters)

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