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100 Self-Care Ideas That Will Fit Easily in Your Busy Schedule

by Jennifer Poindexter.
(This article is part of the Self Awareness series. Get free article updates here.)

100 Self Care Ideas

You have to take good care of yourself first if you want to take good care of others – all of us here know that, right?

And yet, we parents are the worst offenders when it comes to breaking this basic, fairly intuitive rule.

A couple of weeks ago, I was at my breaking point. Within the past few months, I have graduated from college, lost my grandmother, remodeled our kitchen and moved my mother-in-law in with us due to health issues, all while raising 3 energetic boys (who are great kids, but can bicker, brawl and in general drive me up the wall like any normal kids) and working as a freelance writer.

No big deal…most parents have a few balls in the air at any given time as we juggle whatever life throws at us, right?

Here’s the thing though. While I did get all these things done, I was noticing that I was starting to lack in terms of patience and then starting to reel from feelings of utter exhaustion and depletion.

At first, for the life of me, I couldn’t figure out why I was feeling that way. Then it hit me. I had spent zero time on myself for months on end.

Knowing that we need to take care of ourselves as an abstract concept is one thing. Being able to actually fit that into our tight schedules is quite another.

So, I decided to sit down and make a list of all the different ways we busy parents can fit self-care into our schedules (it’s a good thing I’m a writer and can kill two birds with one stone :)) What I ended up with is this monster list of 100 different self-care ideas.

Take a look. I’m sure there are a few you can work into your life no matter how busy it is at the moment.

OK, here we go:

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20 Beautifully Illustrated Questions that Make You Think

by Sumitha Bhandarkar.
(This article is part of the Self Awareness series. Get free article updates here.)

Got answers?

If you’ve been a parent for any length of time, you’ve probably realized that you just can’t have all the answers. Nobody can!

That said, it is critical that we don’t stop asking questions. Questions that make you think. Questions that force you to face your doubts and fears. Questions that help you figure out what you want.

So, for today, I’ve put together a list of 20 questions for you to ponder on.

As you look through these questions, remember that there are no right or wrong answers. These are just cues to get you thinking about some of the things that matter, so that when life presents you with tough situations or choices, you are better prepared to handle them. Take you time to mull over each question.

OK, here we go –

1. When your kids grow up, do you want them to be rich, or happy?

Questions That Make You Think #1: When your kids grow up, do you want them to be rich, or happy?

Ideally, we want both. But for the heck of it, let’s say you had to choose. Which one would it be? Mansions, expensive cars, fancy stuff and a bottle of anti-depressants; or a modest life filled with genuine smiles?

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How Your Religious Beliefs (or Lack Thereof) Shapes Your Kids

by Sumitha Bhandarkar.
(This article is part of the Self Awareness series. Get free article updates here.)

Anyone who thinks sitting in church can make you a Christian must also think that sitting in a garage can make you a car.(This article is part of our series on self awareness)

Do you believe in God?

Do you rigorously practise your religion, or is it just a compass in times of need?

Are you vehemently against organized religion?

There are no right or wrong answers to the above questions.

Not knowing the answers, however is a cardinal sin.

Today, I want to touch up on a touchy subject – the role of religious beliefs in parenting. I am going to put my best effort to tread with care. I know I will probably still end up hurting some of your faith and beliefs. Please pardon me for that and take this post in the spirit it was written – to instigate some thought into what is it that you really believe in and how it shapes your kids.

A Journey In Search of Faith

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4 Quirky Things Your Brain Does That Sabotage Your Parenting Good Intentions (and How to Fix It)

by Sumitha Bhandarkar.
(This article is part of the Self Awareness series. Get free article updates here.)

4 Quirky Things Your Brain Does That Keep You From Becoming a Great ParentDo you know exactly what your brain is up to at this very moment?

The more I read about psychology and neuroscience research, the more I realize this — most of us “regular” people know less about all the crazy, quirky things our brains do than an estranged parent knows about what her teenage son or daughter is doing at 10:00pm on a Friday night!

A lot of this complication arises because of the way our brains developed. A part of it is a relic from the early prehistoric days when survival depended on how quick and instinctive our response was. Another part it is a sophisticated thinking machine that takes its time to consider the options and rationally decide our next move. In any given situation, which part of your brain takes over is anybody’s guess.

Today, let’s explore a few of the quirky things our brains do that sabotage our parenting good intentions and find ways to fix them. Here we go –

#1 It Takes Very Little to Make Your Smart Brain Crumble and Give up Self-Control [Read more…]

Are You Really a Good Parent?

by Sumitha Bhandarkar.
(This article is part of the Self Awareness series. Get free article updates here.)

Doubt kills  more aspirations  than failure. Do you control  your doubt, or  does your doubt  control you?(This article is part of our series on self awareness)

You’re not a good parent — there I said it!

Just think of it. Right now, you could be watching TV. Or facebooking/pinteresting. Or reading a fantastic book. But here you are – reading a personal development blog meant exclusively for parents!

You are not a good parent… You are a @#&*ing awesome parent!

And yet….

In spite of being the awesome parent that you are, in spite of being the cream of the crop and rising above the average, when I said “You are not a good parent” you felt a tiny bit of guilt. And a sense of self doubt.

Why?

To many of you I am just a stranger. To some who read the blog regularly (Thank You!), I am a good acquaintance. And to a very small set of poor unfortunate folks, I am a close friend/family 🙂

But, no matter how much or how little I know you, the fact remains – I am a third party when it comes to your kids, your values, your circumstances, your kids’ temperament and a whole list of other variables. I have absolutely no right to even dare comment on your parenting skills, let alone judge it.

You know that.

But still, when you read the words “You are not a good parent”, even though you were probably (and, rightfully) pissed off with me, there was that tiny bit of self-doubt in the background making you wonder if I was right.

Every parent that I know of – no matter what their parenting style is or how their children eventually turn out – struggles with this self doubt at some point or the other.

So, today let’s explore it a bit.

The Self-Doubt Snowball

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