“Jacob, do you know how important reading comprehension is? Do you know how important becoming a good writer can be to your future?”

He stares at me blankly.

“Well, let me tell you. No matter what you do you’ll need to understand what you read and convey a clear thought in writing. I can’t think of one profession where those things won’t matter.”

Some days, he continues to stare at me blankly.

On others, he quickly responds with a “Yeah, Ok. OK!!” in that exasperated voice of his that conveys he’ll agree with whatever I say just to keep me from launching into more nagging and lecturing.

Jacob loves math and science. However, when it comes to language arts he is totally uninterested. And I lecture and nag to drive home the point that this stuff really matters.

In reality though, he probably just hears “blah, blah, blah.”

No matter how much I harp, nothing I say seems to get through.

So what do we do, parents? There are so many important issues that we want to talk to our kids about, but if everything we say just goes into one ear and out the other and completely bypasses the brain, what good will it achieve?

Here’s what I’ve found out –

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Does being playful and silly come naturally to you?

It didn’t to me. Not at first. I’m getting better at it now though.

My children are all very active and full of energy. Their extreme enthusiasm would leave me becoming more serious as I felt like I needed to keep the balance in the family so we don’t turn to utter chaos.

But a while ago, we suffered a loss in our family and it truly reminded me how short life is. And the way “normal” life got turned upside down by the COVID-19 situation further drove this home.

I have made it my personal goal to enjoy life as much as possible and to cut loose with my kids as best as I can.

We do have an important job in shaping our children, but I want to have fun while doing it.

I made a list to help me transition from that serious mama to a more silly, playful mama. And over time, I kept adding to that list. Today, I added a few last ones to round it up to the nice “100” number and I’m sharing it with you.

I hope it helps you as much as it has helped me!

No Matter What Age Your Kids Are…

This first section of ideas should work no matter what age your kids are –

1. Have water fights. You can do this in the bathroom during your daily routine or go all out with water guns and drench each other on the front lawn.
2. Let your child give you a makeover. They can do your hair, make up, and even paint your nails.
3. Jump in leaves together.
4. Have a dance off between you and your children – no special occasion necessary.
5. Alternately, dance your difficult emotions away. Whenever you or your child is angry or upset, grab them and start dancing.
6. See who can make the loudest noises with their armpits. Or fake-farts. Or burps. A little gross, but believe me, almost every child loves this!
7. Jump on the trampoline together.
8. Cook/bake together and don’t worry about the mess. That’s half the fun!
9. When done, sing the cleanup song in a whacky tone (if you have little ones) or pop in a favorite CD (with bigger kids) and have fun cleaning up the mess together.
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“Mom, do I really have to invite him to my party? I don’t like him!”

Have you ever had these awkward conversations with your child?

Yes, I’ve been there too!

Here’s the thing — not everyone we come across in our lifetime will be a peach. We won’t get along with all of them nor really enjoy being around all of them.

That however does not give us the license to be mean or rude.

Being able to deal with those who we don’t see eye-to-eye with in a healthy, respectful manner is an essential necessity to being a decent human being. And that is what I want to raise my kids to be.

Besides, research shows that good social skills – the ability to interact with all kinds of people, including those whom we may not like – is key to career success… from being able to ace an interview to securing funding for entrepreneurial ventures.

So, it is in our best interest to teach our kids how to deal with other kids they don’t like.

After some digging around, here’s what I’ve found to be a good approach –

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So, on this site we talk a lot about being connected parents.

About guiding and supporting our kids in their journey through childhood, so they can grow up to be fantastic human beings.

Today though I want to take a step back and look specifically at those instances when we need to get out of the way so we can be better parents.

It was amazing how many situations I could come up with once I got thinking!

We’ve got a lot to cover, so let’s dive right in –

#1 When Your Lid Is About To Blow

Let’s just start off with a bang.

Sometimes there are instances when we can get angry in a controlled manner.

And then, there are those when all sanity has left the building, and we simply want to scream, rant and rave not caring a hoot to what destruction it leaves in its wake.

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