It’s one of those nights.
The kind of nights where my toddler does not want to go to bed and has made this abundantly clear by his squirms and whines and protests as I try to change his diaper and put on his pajamas.
He doesn’t want to listen to Mommy. He’s tired of her telling him what to do. And frankly, I don’t blame him.
Toddlers live in a world where they are constantly told “No,” what to do, and how to behave all day, every day. It shouldn’t come as a surprise that this would get tiring for them; resisting is often just an attempt to insert some independence!
So what do I do? Instead of yelling and persisting full steam ahead, I take a pause and then pick up his little pajama top and try a different tactic.
“Hmmm… does this go on your knee?”
He stops and stares at me.
“Nooo, does it go on your feet?”
He starts to giggle.
“Nope, not there. Hmm. Silly Mommy. Where does it go? I need your help!”
Just like that, my toddler’s confidence has been raised a notch and he starts to help. He feels smart and in charge. And I, playing the fool, have him just where I want him. [Read more…]